17.4.08

Step Two: Affadavit of Single Status

The applicant who will go to China for marriage registration shall apply for a single/non-marital status certificate.
How to apply
  1. An Affidavit of Single Status signed before a notary public.
  2. Certified by the clerk of Court of the County in which the document is commissioned if applicable. It may be omitted if the authority in item 3 will certify directly to the notary.
  3. Certified by the Secretary of the State in which the document is executed.
  4. Certified by the relevant Consulate General. You must apply to the correct Consulate General which holds consular jurisdiction over your area of residence.
Documents to be included with applications:
  1. One Authentication Application Form (G1) .
  2. The above-mentioned Affidavit of Single Status, and a photocopy of the paper where the notary public and certification officer signs and stamps.
Fees and processing time
  1. The authentication fee of $20 is payable by Money Order, Cashier's Check, Company Check or Cash.
  2. Personal checks are not acceptable. Please make the check payable to Chinese Consulate in Chicago.
  3. For mail service, an additional 5 dollars PER PACKAGE for handling will be charged. Make sure you read Mail Application Instructions.
  4. The regular processing time is 5 working days. For express service, additional fees of $30 for 1 working day processing, or $20 for 2-3 working days processing will be charged.
Additional information
  • The divorced or the widowed shall have the divorce certificate or death certificate of the ex-spouse be certified/authenticated together with the Affidavit of Single Status.
  • The divorced whose ex-spouse is a Chinese citizen, and who hold the divorce decree executed by the US court, shall apply to the Chinese court for the acknowledgement of the divorce decree.
  • According to the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, the minimum marriageability age is 22 for men and 20 for women.

AFFIDAVIT OF SINGLE STATUS
On this date of _________________, I, (name of affiant) ,
residing at (street and number) (city) (state) (zip code)
BEING DULY SWORN DEPOSE AND SAY:
I was born on (date) at (city) (country)
I am a (country) citizen. My passport number is
I am a (current occupation) . I am employed by (company name and address)
I am currently single, have never been married (or was divorced/widowed on (date) and have never been remarried since that date).
Signature of the Affiant: _______________________________
Name in Print:________________________________________
(For the Notary Public)
Subscribed and sworn to before me by (name of affiant) on this____day of ________________.

Step One: The Engagement

So getting engaged in China is a little different than in the West. For one, the lady picks the ring. Secondly, you go to a dinner, that you are paying for, with all her family members and ask her parents for permission to marry their daughter. Then the ring traditionally goes on the middle finger rather than what we call the ring finger in America.

Note: It is most auspicious to buy the ring in the morning, the morning of the engagement, and you will have to consult someone for an auspicious day, possibly a professional matchmaker or a fortune teller.

And that is the easy part! (HA!) then comes all the paperwork. I am currently in the process of doing this paperwork and will report on it in hopes to make a guide for others going through this process in the future.

1.4.08

ADVICE: A Chinese Girl's Heart: Tread Softly

Stolen from http://laowaiink.blogspot.com/2008/04/chinese-girls-heart-tread-softy.html with permission.

Of course this title is misleading. There are tons of Chinese girls that are as much players as the guys and break hearts without a second thought. However, at least in my experience, most Chinese girls are very affectionate and are eager, sometimes too eager, to give their love to any man that is sweet and kind to them, especially when they are young.

For the majority of Chinese girls, there is no such thing as a casual relationship. A Chinese girl usually interprets any intimate behavior, such as gifts, romantic messages, sex, etc., as indications of long-term relationship potential, and the fact of the matter is that most Chinese girls are looking for a man to take care of them and they are quick to latch on to such possibilities. I don't mean this in a condescending or diminutive way; I'm just stating my observations after years of field research :-). Chinese girls are extremely affectionate and usually very loyal, because their man is providing them with stability and security. In return she gives her affection, her body, and her fidelity. Whether this is "love" is another discussion, but it is this "emotional transaction" that leads to so many broken hearts among Chinese girls.

Everyone has fanciful illusions of fairy tale love stories but of course reality is a harsh teacher. A man can throw out words and money and attention willy-nilly but a girl's affection is her precious possession, and when it is tossed aside after being used up, it can be devastating. Chinese girls are very naive about love and romance, in spite of it being largely absent from Chinese culture. Yet a heart is a heart, and love is an incredible treasure, and when it is placed in the hands of someone who recognizes just how special it is, that heart will sing. But the sad truth is, far too many hearts grow cold and dim as the beautiful dream withers and dies, leaving a life that is biologically satisfied but lacking any real purpose.


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